Steps that Will Help you to get through a Break up (Part 1)

Everyone who has experienced love has also get through heartbreak. When we love someone we share with our beloved the best, most secret and intimate parts of ourselves. And when it happens that our love is rejected we think that our love is not valuable. People are created to love and be loved - this is what we are. Being rejected by our dear person is interpreted as, “I am nothing and I am not worthy of love”. If you are getting now through a break up try to follow the below presented steps, and very soon you will feel yourself better and free.

1.Think why it happened.

Try to think why you broke up, what happened between you. Even if sometimes you think that there wasn’t any reason, there certainly was one - and certainly not only one. Try to understand that there was a period of time when you were happy together, but it happened that after a while something went wrong in your relations, that none of you liked it and it would end anyway. In relationships it is better sooner than later, because further will be more painful. Such an analysis will help you to avoid other mistakes in the future.

2.Don't try to inhibit yourself.

Don’t hold back yourself, cry if you want, and scream if you need. Give way to your emotions. Spend the whole day in pajamas if you want. Devote this time to yourself; there is nothing wrong that you cry, you have been hurt. After a while you will feel a slight relief.

3.Don't change your decision.

Don’t try to think about your decision, as thinking about all good times you spend together may make you forget all the reasons of your break up. Very often people began to think that those bad parts of relationship were not so bad after all, and they could live with them farther. Try not to play such games with yourself. Come to terms with this situation and move forward.

4.Keep distance.

Although after the breakup you decided to remain friends with your ex, try to have nothing in common with this person. It means that you don’t have to see each other, you shouldn’t communicate with his/her family relatives and you must forget about phone calls and e-mails. These are temporary measures until you feel that it is all over between you two. In case you would need him/her to deal with some practical aspects of things, try limiting these meetings except those important.

5.Cope with emotions.

It is natural to feel that you made something wrong, thus accepting the mistakes. But you also don’t have to forget that you are an ordinary person, who tried to do his /her best and besides of all you are not the one who makes mistakes. Of course to be denied is difficult to stand but soon will be a new acceptance that will make you moving forward.