Sex minus Foreplay

We know that every advice column has attempted to drill into men’s heads that the No. 1 thing women want in bed is foreplay, foreplay, foreplay. But AskMen is going to contradict those teachings. Believe it or not, there are occasions when a woman doesn’t need the big build-up and wants to get straight to the main event. These are the times when the requisite foreplay can be skipped because she’s ready to get down to business immediately.

After a night out

The two of you have been out on the town together and had a great time. You enjoyed a few cocktails. You either joined her on the dance floor or, if you’re one of those non-dancing guys, you sat and watched her shake it with her girlfriends. The environment was giddy and sexy the way only a sweaty nightclub full of half-drunk people can be. On such a night, foreplay is not necessary. She’s probably been thinking about having sex with you all night. When you finally step in the door, she’ll be tearing your clothes off before you can make it to the bedroom.

Welcome home sex

Whether it’s a business trip, a family visit or a holiday that separates the two of you, when you are forced to spend time apart, the homecoming will be sweet. The time away from each other has made not only her heart grow fonder but her libido, as well. When you’re picking her up at the airport or vice versa, you can be pretty certain that the sex is going to be fast and furious when you get back home. She has missed you a lot, so she’s not going to stand on formality once you’re finally in the same room.

In public

Not everyone is into getting busy in public, but if your girl has an exhibitionist side or just gets off on the possibility of getting caught, this kind of sex doesn’t require foreplay. First of all, public sex will usually be rather quick to lessen the chances that someone will catch you. It also generally takes place in locations that aren’t foreplay-friendly -- a bathroom stall isn’t the place for romance. If she’s into having sex in the back of a cinema or upstairs at a dinner party, there’s a good chance that the thought of it has already gotten her excited, so foreplay is not required.


After attending a wedding or bridal shower

Weddings and bridal showers do strange things to women. You may notice that when your girlfriend comes home from attending one of these events, she is more enthusiastic than usual in bed. This usually happens for one of two reasons: 1) The type of woman who has no plans to get married will want to have hot sex with you to celebrate the fact that she’s not saddled with a husband and kids; and 2) If your girlfriend is the marrying kind, she may want to get down to business to prove that unbridled passion will still be on the table once you commit to her. Either way, wedding bells can be a major aphrodisiac and will often make foreplay superfluous.

Short on time

Contrary to what you may think, being short on time is not a reason to not have sex. You may believe that women would prefer to avoid it altogether rather than do it without foreplay, but chances are, if she’s in the mood, she’ll be fine with squeezing it in before you go to work, during your lunch break or on other occasions when time is scarce. Quickies have their place in every sexual repertoire. Just be sure not to make a habit of it.

the exception, not the rule

This article is not designed to give you a license to forgo foreplay for the rest of time. On a regular basis, kissing, touching, licking, sucking, caressing, and nibbling are appreciated and expected. But keep in mind that occasions will arise when a good, hard f**k is what a girl really wants.

Mistakes Women Make During Sex ( Part 2 )

Going to bed in stretch pajamas

A big mistake most women make is going to bed in their stretch pajamas, thinking that it is not so important what to wear at night. This get-up is for sure a passion-killer. So, Ladies, when you go to sleep put on sexy lingerie, your beloved will appreciate it.

Lying without movement and thinking of a new dress.

Most women believe that sex is only pleasing for a man, and they have to lie without movement, thinking of a new dress that they saw in a shop, while their poor man tries to get some reaction. Lying in the bed like a dead body is a real turn-off for a man. Don’t view sex as a duty; enjoy it with your man.

Making him responsible for your orgasm

Stop doing it. His duty isn't just to make you reach orgasm, don't be so self-loving. If you know what can make you reach orgasm, tell it to your man. He is not a mind-reader.

Unshaved legs

Don’t expect you man always be clean-shaved when going to bed, when you legs are so prickly that scratch his shins. Shave your legs and apply a powder or a moisturizing cream so he doesn’t think he is trying to get out from an Amazon Jungle.

Sleeping in his arms means that he loves you.

After sex women like to talk and cuddle, while men like to sleep. It is something biological and not intentionally. And what’s that desire to sleep in his arms. Try to put your head on your arm and see what you will feel after a while. Do you feel comfortable? Your arms grew numb. So, next time don’t think that he doesn’t love you because he doesn't want you to sleep in his arms.

Ashamed to undress in front of him.

Don’t be ashamed to undress in front of your man, as men like to look at their woman body and feast upon their beauty. Don’t deprive your man from this pleasure!

Forgetting about man.

Often women are so concerned with foreplay, enjoying men’s touches and caress that forget that their man might also like to be touched and caressed. Make sure you don’t forget about your man, you are not the one who needs to be pleased. Ask what you man likes and do it.

Being too hygienic.

Probably the main reason that kills the desire for sex is when a woman leaves her man in passion and rushes to the bathroom to wash and change the sheets. Leave all that cleaning when he is gone or shower together, it will spice up you too.

As you can see women also are capable to make mistakes during sex. So, Ladies if you want to make you sex life better, avoid these most common mistakes.

Mistakes Women Make During Sex (Part 1)

Men are not the only one who make mistakes during sex, women also do them. When in a relationship appear problems the both partners are guilty, the thing is that someone initiates them and another continues.
Below are listed some of the most common mistakes women make during sex.
Ladies be honest you do it.

He must do the first move.

Women always believe that man is a hunter and therefore he must make the first move. But ladies men will be absolutely over the moon if you start sex and make the fist move. Most of them dream about this, but women don’t want to break the old sexual traditions, expecting men do first move. They may wait weeks, craving for their man, but will don’t do the first move.

Worrying about their look.

Many women are worrying about their look during sex, forgetting about what they are really doing at present. Paying attention on how you look will distract you from what you're actually supposed to be doing. Men don’t care about little cellulite dimples on your thighs, or that you gain 300 grams of weight. The only thing they want is to know that you enjoy it and have fun.

Stating that men are not romantic.

Most of women think that men can’t be romantic. But they are capable to be romantic and make you feel like a queen. Only don’t ask him for thousands of times to make you a romantic dinner, as such things are not done against order.

Thinking that men want only sex.

The reason of this thinking is hidden in men, as they painted themselves in this way. But in fact it is not true, because men also suffer from low libido when they are stressed or tired. They even can be not in the mood, when it comes to football or their favorite computer game. In case a man doesn’t want sex, woman will think that he doesn’t love her anymore, but love has nothing to do with sex.

A man knows everything about sex.

Just because he is a man it doesn’t mean that he is an expert in this area. If you not tell him that you don’t like some of his moves during sex, he will continue doing it. Communication is what makes relationship strong and successful. Talk to your partner about sex, say what you like and what you would not like to do during sex.

Being scared to try something new.

Women usually are afraid to try something new in their sex life. In case a man offers to his woman to try a new position it doesn’t mean that he is not interested in her anymore. He only tries to make their sex life diversified and interesting. If you don’t want to do what he offers talk to him.

How to Make your Ex-Boyfriend Jealous

There may be many reasons you want to make your ex-boyfriend jealous. Some of them may be good and some of them could be really bad. Almost all of them are sure to be immature and petty. But the broken heart wants what it wants. Who cares about being good and righteous when you can be evil and get even? All the pop psychology aside, sometimes it’s therapeutic to make an ex jealous. Something vindictive about having him regret not being with you. So, take a deep breath as we indulge our darker side...

1. The best revenge, they say, is to live well. As vague as that is, it’s pretty clear that if you are happy with your current situation in life, it means that your life is a lot better without your ex. Be happy with your life and life’s choices. Make your peace with your current situation and be content. True happiness shows on your face, through your smile and your laughter.

2. Do not stop working, exercising and hanging out with friends, especially common friends. You need to continue your routine to stay sane. Also, hanging out with common friends will only help your cause. They can act as indirect messengers between you and your ex-boyfriend.

3. Do not post depressing status messages on Facebook. Do not tweet that you’re now broken hearted. This will appear too contrived and sad. Do post standard and mundane messages about work or studies. Another option is posting updates about music, movies you watched, clubs that you went to, etc.

4. Always look your best. Even if you step out to buy tangerines or cereal, look good. You don’t have to wear your Sunday best, but be groomed. Even if you’re casually dressed, do not be frazzled and sloppy. When you leave your house, ask yourself if you want to look like this if your ex-boyfriend runs into you? Would this look be good enough to make him regret his decision?

5. Hang out with one of your guy friends to make your ex-boyfriend jealous. Not more than one. It could be viewed as desperate. If you have a friend that your ex was always jealous of, half your work is done. Do not be over-flirtatious; however, you can be affectionate and warm.

6. If you run into your ex, be very casual. Act like you would if you ran into a casual friend of the opposite gender. Answer everything he asks in a matter-of-fact manner. Talk about exams, college, etc. Anything mundane and routine that isn’t indicative of your heartache is good. If you are asked “How you doing?”, say that you’re doing well. Respond naturally and in the way you would to an acquaintance or even a stranger. Don’t look sad or forlorn.

7. Do not do stuff that would be perceived as familiar. For example, if a song is playing, don’t proclaim that you remember how much your ex loves this song. If he sniffles, don’t ask him if the allergy is still acting up. Do not comment on things like new haircuts, clothes, etc., even if that’s the first thing you notice.

8. Look distracted and keep checking the time. Always leave before him and say you’re late. Implying that you’re late for something is a great way of signing off. Do not elaborate what you’re late for.

9. Don’t ever be hostile or indifferent. This reeks of the fact that you are still not over him. If you smile and act like running into him hasn’t affected you, your ex will get the message that you don’t care.

10. Don’t ask your ex-boyfriend about immediate or long term plans. Don’t ask “What you doing tonight?” or “What plans for the weekend?”. Once you banish curiosity, you will be able to show your ex that you don’t care about his life and you have truly moved on. Asking your ex if he has seen a certain movie or play will be considered a hint. Ditto about concerts, recitals, art shows, etc. Do not make any indication of wanting to hang out with him. The same applies to bigger decisions such as which college or university he plans to go to.

11. If you’re seeing someone new, call him when your ex-boyfriend is around. Don’t raise your voice but mumble sweet nothings. Be barely audible. Your body language and smile should indicate that you’re having a flirty conversation. If your ex asks about him, be terse and to the point. Say that he is really fun to hang out with and end the conversation at that. It will kill your ex if you’re having fun with someone new!

12. You could also subtly flirt with someone when you know your ex is watching. Do not be over-flirtatious in a cheap and desperate way. Saying a line here and a little eye contact there should be enough. Don’t make too much of physical contact. Touch the shoulder or arm slightly while talking, but not in a gross way. Choose someone special to shower your attention on. Do not flirt with everyone. Having just one object of affection seems credible.

13. Do fun things like take a fishing trip with your friends or go clubbing. Be sure to mention this to a friend who will convey this to your ex. Your ex will hate it that you have an independent life beyond him.

If you want to make your ex-boyfriend jealous just to get back at him, you could use one or many of these tips. However, if you want to win your ex-boyfriend back, be careful with certain things like flirting with someone new or being seen with someone new. Seeing you with someone new could act as a catalyst and help your ex move on. So, figure out your agenda before beginning the exercise.

Understand that making your ex-boyfriend jealous will either make you feel vindicated or content, but only temporarily. In order to move on or to get together with your ex again, you will have to banish negative emotions and bring in the positive ones. Whatever your agenda, you can indulge your broken heart and do things that make you feel better at that moment. However, draw the line when it gets obsessive and out of control.

Use All Five Senses to Spice up Your Sex Life

Don't fall into a routine, doing always the same things. Switch on your imagination and put all your senses into action. Use these five senses and you will be guaranteed with new and exciting discoveries.

Seeing

It is very romantic when a bedroom is filled with a faint light. Turn the lights on and you will be agreeably surprised at how your partner’s body looks like. Light the candles as they create a romantic atmosphere.

Or you may have sex during the day, in natural light. According to studies morning sex is very healthy. Being ‘visually appealing’ doesn’t mean that you have to be completely naked, keep some clothes on you. Buy some sexy lingerie and seduce your partner.

Another way to spice up your sex is to blindfold you partner. It will heighten your awareness of other sensations. Many couples state that being blindfolded during sex is something unforgettable. Being blindfolded your partner will do not know what you are going to do next. This will arouse you and your partner greatly.

Hearing

Make a play list of you favorite sexy music, as a right play list may create the exactly right mood. Choose music that has a private meaning for you both. Try playing various types of music during sex. See if there are some changes.

Dirty talk, in case you both like it will never be out of place, as it creates a sexy and exciting atmosphere. Talk to you partner, tell what you like and love to do. Only make sure not to let all this dirty talk get too out of your hand. As evidently you don’t want to find all of fourth floor’s ears leaned against your door.

Taste

Go out somewhere to eat with your partner or cook a favorite meal as a prelude. But make sure to not eat too much as indigestion and heartburn are unsexy things. Hand feed each other, do it in a sensual manner, make you partner crave for more.

If you want to a have a really fantastic sex, use edible body lotions, whipped cream, or lick-able fragrances. Don’t be afraid to be playful. Use your imagination and have fun! Only keep in mind any allergies that you or your partner may have.

Smell

According to a research, sexual attraction is significantly based on smell. Conversely, an unpleasant smell is enough to spurn someone, no matter how beautiful you are. Women take more attention on smells than men, so guys be always good smelling and make sure your bedroom is clean.

Use small amounts of your favorite perfume and spray a little on your bed sheets.

Touch

Our skin can be probably compared with a gold mine of hidden erogenous zones that make you shiver when touched. Make sure to not touch one and the same zone each time you have sex. There are so many G-spots and so many ways to touch them as: massaging, licking, circling, light touching and etc.

Not touching can also be an unforgettable sensory experience. An easy way to drive you partner crazy is doing a striptease or exotic dance. You may even use a feather to arouse you partner or whatever else fires your imagination.

Sex and Marriage: How to be a better lover?

Most people expect that the intensity of their sex lives will fade after they marry. Some guys even resign themselves to never having good sex again after deciding to spend the rest of their lives with one woman. But this doesn’t have to be the case; marriage doesn’t necessarily mean the death of hot sex, but it will take some effort from both of you to keep it steamy as the years go by. Here are some tips for having better sex as a married couple.

Use sex to get past ruts in your marriage

There will be times in your marriage when careers, family, kids, friends, hobbies and other important tasks will pack your schedule and get in the way of maintaining a good relationship. There will be periods when the two of you are not communicating well and don’t seem to be connecting with each other. When you experience these ruts in your relationship, don’t let sex go by the wayside.

Use the time you have together wisely by getting frisky. If your marriage is experiencing a dip, it’ll fall even further if the two of you don’t connect sexually. Instead of abandoning your bedroom activities at the first sign of trouble, use sex to get back on track.

Stop looking at her as your wife

Yes, she is the love of your life -- the woman you chose to spend your days with until you both grow old. She is the mother of your children (if you have them) and a domestic goddess that runs your household and your family while still succeeding in a career and a myriad of other duties.

In order to make married sex better, try to stop thinking of her as your adorable and adoring wife when the two of you get frisky. Allow your imagination to run wild; think of her as a dirty sexpot and encourage her to play the part. Tap into the intense attraction you have for each other and forget that you’re husband and wife.

Make your room a no kid zone

Having a better sex life with your wife requires that you both take a step away from your everyday lives and focus on each other. If you are parents, this means that you’re going to have to designate some space in your house for adult-only activities. To this end, consider making your bedroom a no-go area for your children.

The kids usually have the run of the house, but if they know that mum and dad’s room is off limits, you’ll be more likely to have time and space to yourselves on a regular basis. Your bedroom will become a haven where it’s all about the two of you.

Don’t wear pyjamas

It’s a well-known fact that many people -- men and women alike -- feel it’s OK to let themselves go once the wedding vows are exchanged. Unfortunately, this is a one way street to problems with your sex life. If you no longer bother to put in the effort to make yourself attractive to your spouse, she could lose interest in being intimate with you.

Keep the sex hot by maintaining your looks. This means no flannel pyjamas in bed. Slip under the sheets wearing what she thinks you look sexy in, whether it’s the t-shirt she loves to cuddle up to, just your boxers or nothing at all. Don’t come to bed covered up from head to toe. Hopefully this will encourage her to put some imagination into her sleepwear as well.

The best thing about married sex

The major benefit of having sex in a long-term relationship is that you should be able to trust your partner and not be afraid to share all aspects of your sexuality with her. Get your fantasies out in the open, push your boundaries and create the right environment in order to keep exploring sex with the woman you plan to grow old with.

The object of your affection is your ‘best’ friend?

Love. That four letter word that brings so much happiness, so much heartache..but is still so worthwhile. Friendship. That wonderful bonding, that incomparable rush of emotion that cuts across age, race, gender, religion and region. But what happens if you combine the two? Falling in love is complicated enough, so what happens if the object of your affection is your ‘best’ friend?

Friendship blossoming into love is actually a rather common phenomenon. No wonder, considering that friendship is usually built on the platforms of mutual affection, unconditional support, or common interests, backgrounds or circumstances, similar to those that love is built on. Moreover, friends support each other through thick and thin, the good times and the bad and the ups and downs that make up life. Very similar therefore, to the qualities that make up a good mate.

In this context, all it takes is a small spark, to ignite the gentle glow of friendship to the full on flame of passion.

There are many advantages in falling for your best bud. For one, you zip past the 'downside' of dating: Remember the sweaty palms and awkward silences of your first date? Or the constant pressure to present your ‘best’ side? When you're in a romantic relationship with your best friend, you get to relax and just enjoy each other’s company. What’s more, you need not shield those skeletons in your closet 'cause chances are, your friend knows about all of them and loves and accepts you anyway.

However such a situation has a serious downside as well. For example, what if your friend does not share your feelings? What if he/she is so disgusted at your amorous affections that he/she can never look at you the same way again? Or what if things simply don’t work out? These are some serious pitfalls to what might otherwise seem an idyllic scenario. The key question amidst all of this uncertainty is: Is declaring your love to your best friend worth risking the friendship? Tough question but one that definitely needs to be confronted before you take any course of action.

Going forward, the main question is how to broach such a sensitive topic. Will the direct approach of being completely blunt about your feelings be the best approach? Or will the subtle, gradual approach of carefully dropping hints over a certain span of time, be better? Naturally, in matters of the heart there can be no hard and fast rules or foolproof formulae. What’s more, the most important thing while in such a delicate situation is to exercise caution and employ all the sensitivity possible to ensure that things go according to plan.

Here are some helpful tips to keep in mind when dealing with such a dilemma:

1.Assess the situation with a clear head
Although this line of approach may seem pretty much next to impossible when you look at your situation, objectively assessing the situation can make all the difference. Clearly think and list down (preferably in writing) what exactly you feel and expect from the situation. Proceeding without thinking things through can mean making some avoidable mistakes that you might regret later.

2.Prepare yourself for anything
Telling your best friend that you have feelings for him/her means putting your friendship on the line. Perhaps, your friend may return your feelings and the two of you can embark on a romantic relationship. But what if your friend rejects you and wants to continue being strictly friends? You need to be ready to accept whatever the outcome.

3.Test the waters
Observe your friend carefully, (though covertly). Is he/she emotionally available to you? Is he/she interested in someone else or simply ‘off’ love? You will have to judge to the best of your knowledge whether or not your friend is ready to take your friendship to the next level.

4.Time your move
In life, everything is about timing. When you make your move is as crucial as how you make it. Don’t spring your feelings to your friend during a rough work week or a family emergency. Instead, ensure that the object of your affection is in a receptive frame of mind before you proceed further.

5.Make your move
Use your imagination. A wise man once said "Love is all about the grand gestures". Thing big. Think personal. Express your feelings in a manner that encapsulates your feelings in all their spendour. Go that extra mile - it's sure to be worth it in the end.

6.Face the consequences
Accept both victory and defeat with grace. If your friend responds positively - take things slow and savor each moment of your time together. If he/she turns you down, preserve the friendship. Just because you two can’t have romantic love together, doesn’t mean you have to throw away the friendship.

Ultimately, remember whatever the outcome of your ‘coming clean’, come what may, you will always have precious memories of your time together to cherish forever!

The Advices Improve your Sex Life

A healthy and fulfilling love life is not just about finding the right person. If you want your relationship to be satisfying on all accounts, you have to keep yourself physically and emotionally fit. Here are a few lifestyle tips that can help you to enjoy a healthy and active love life.

1. Work Out

Almost everyone knows that regular exercise helps to tone the human body and makes one look more attractive. But other than this, exercising regularly also offers multiple ways of improving one’s sex life. Various types of aerobic exercises are helpful in increasing muscle tone of the body which is useful in maintaining agility. Agility is critical for balance so that one can position oneself appropriately while making love. Being supple and agile will thus ensure that you are comfortable in various sexual positions.Cardiovascular exercises are hugely useful for the circulatory system of the human body. These exercises help in increasing blood flow to the sex organs which is critical for the right transmission of hormones in order to stimulate the mind and senses and make sex pleasurable.

Again specific pelvic exercises are helpful in heightening partner satisfaction while improving your overall health at the same time. Women who go through pregnancies and childbirth may find their pelvic muscles getting loose and therefore resulting in reduced pleasure while lovemaking. The Kegel’s exercise, which involves an act of holding urine, is an effective way of not only increasing pleasure during vaginal intercourse but also in cutting down the risk of developing urinary incontinence in later life. Men too in fact stand to benefit from Kegel’s exercise. Studies have found that men with erectile dysfunction often report that they have improved or regained normal functions by regularly doing Kegel’s exercise. However fitness experts and doctors advise that men and women need to do Kegel’s several times a day for 8-12 weeks to obtain noticeable benefits. The good news is that you can do them anywhere, in a car while waiting at a traffic signal, at work or at home while watching TV. Or you can incorporate Kegel’s into routine exercises like abdominal crunches.

2. Eat right

If you want to have a healthy sex life, make sure that your kitchen is stocked with the right foods. A healthy low-fat diet is essential in keeping the arteries clear and practically everyone knows the importance of a healthy heart if one is to enjoy sex. The heart is the organ which is responsible for pumping blood all over the body and a diet high in saturated fats can clog the arteries and impair blood flow to the genital regions. This will not only hinder a person’s ability to perform but also interfere with sexual pleasure. Thus a diet that is unhealthy for the heart is bound to lead to a sluggish sex life. The importance of effective circulation has already been mentioned in the point above and again a low-fat diet is necessary to keep arteries and blood passages open. In fact foods rich in Omega-3 fatty acids like mackerel, salmon wild salmon are best for boosting circulation of the body. Studies have shown that foods high in L-Arginine like oatmeal, granola and nuts also help in improved circulation which results in greater erectile response. Again fruits and vegetables rich in minerals and multivitamins contribute to improved neurological functions which in turn boost the circulatory system, all necessary for a satisfying sexual experience.

A diet low in fried and oily foods will also help one to keep obesity at bay. If one is to experience as well as give sexual pleasure, it is crucial that the body weight be maintained within appropriate limits. Results of several studies in fact show that obesity is a definite risk factor for erectile dysfunction and low testosterone levels. So, stick to a diet which will help you to keep your weight within healthy limits. Make sure your meals are rich in whole grains, fruits and vegetables. When going for proteins stick to fish and white meat instead of fat-rich red meat.

However don’t go off fats completely since they are necessary in the production of hormones. Cholesterol is metabolized in the liver and two importantly by-products are testosterone and estrogen – hormones crucial for sex drive. The important thing is to stick to the ‘good facts’ which are available in foods like salmon, olive oil and nuts.

For women who are looking to have a good time under covers, try soy. Studies have shown that soy helps in binding estrogen receptors which in turn is improves lubrication in the vaginal area and also helps to combat menopausal symptoms like hot flashes. However women who have a history or are at high risk of breast cancer should avoid large amounts soy since the binding of estrogen receptors can lead to a relapse of the cancer.

3. Learn to manage your medical conditions

Medical studies have revealed that several kinds of medical conditions like diabetes, hypertension or heart disease are linked to erectile dysfunction. Following a low-fat diet and exercising regularly is crucial for effective management of these medical conditions. Once you incorporate healthy habits in your lifestyle, you will be better equipped to manage any medical condition that you may have and also lead a fulfilling sex life.

4. Restrain intake of Alcohol

Popular culture may be overflowing with images of macho men downing Scotch and martinis and having women all over them. But in reality, too much alcohol works in just the opposite way. This is because alcohol is an anesthetic and having a drink too many will numb the nerve sense in a person’s sex organs. The result may range from failure to get an erection to inability to reach orgasm. Again drinking is liable to make people clumsier than usual which is sure to hinder sexual pleasure. Finally excessive drinking is more likely to lead to unhappy sex life. This is because when a person is drunk, he or she is unlikely to bother about who the sexual partner is. But with the return of reason, that person is bound to be disappointed, ashamed or even disgusted by who he or she went to bed with. So if you want to have a healthy sex life, limit your drinks to one or two pegs and instead of going for a Scotch on the rocks, stick to wines and drinks with low alcohol content.

5. Put out that cigarette

You must’ve heard the joke about kissing a chain smoker and feeling like one is licking an ashtray. But federally-funded medical studies have confirmed that smoking has a direct, negative effect on the sexuality of man at every level. Smokers who are going through half a packet every day experience diminished sex drive, even if they are in their 20s and 30s. Again the smoking negatively affects the male sexual performance by interfering with smooth erectile function. When diminished desire is combined with impaired performance, the overall sexual experience is bound to be unsatisfactory. So put out that cigarette if you want a more fulfilling love life, not to mention a longer and healthier life over all.

6. Avoidance of stress

In recent times there have been several surveys trying to find out why urban professional couples are having sex less than before. One reason for this may be the intolerable levels of stress in modern life. When both partners have demanding jobs and at the same time have to take care of a home and kids, sex is often put at the bottom of the to-do list. In order to have a healthy love life, try to find a balance between your professional and personal schedules. Let either partner take up a less demanding job and reduce your wants accordingly. Make weekly holidays and vacations off-limits for bosses and co-workers. Try meditating at least once a day to reconnect with yourself and attain perspective on the small inconveniences of life. This will in turn help you to reconnect with your partner and lead to a satisfying love life.

7. Check your Medication

Very often certain types of medication can interfere with the functioning of a normal libido. Prescriptions for anxiety and depression like Prozac and Paxil can negatively affect sex drive in some people. So always check with your doctor before you take anti-depressants and ask what side effects they might induce.

8. Get enough sleep

Sleep deprivation and sleep disturbances are one of the most common culprits when it comes to having an unhealthy sex life. Getting seven to nine hours of sleep every night is crucial to revitalizing all the systems of your body so that the next day you have adequate energy to go to work, do chores around the house and, yes, have good sex. But when your body is hungry for rest and sleep, it is natural that your sex drive as well as performance should suffer. Sleep deprivation may occur due to snoring by your partner, sleep apnea, stress at work, uncomfortable bedroom conditions or emotional problems. Whatever the reason, consult a doctor or a sleep specialist to diagnose the problem and offer solutions. Remember the more relaxed you are in mind and body, the greater will be sexual energy and enjoyment.

9. Finally, have a positive outlook

Depression is one of the biggest obstacles to healthy sex life. If you feel miserable about your work, your family and yourself, you are unlikely to find pleasure in any love relationship. This in fact is a pity, since a satisfying relationship can work wonders to treat a depression. This is the time when a depressed person needs to be loved, cherished and appreciated by someone close. However a person suffering from depression will withdraw into a shell and want to have nothing to do with the rest of the world, including his or her partner. Physiological implications are likely to range from lack of interest in sex and loss of libido to erectile dysfunction in men and inability to attain orgasm in women. At such a time, it is best to consult a specialist who may suggest a combination of counseling and medication to treat depression. However if it is in your power, try to maintain a positive attitude in life. Stop being a perfectionist and fearing that others are out to get you. Simplify your life and learn to distinguish between needs and wants. All this will help you to feel good about yourself which is imperative if you are to feel good about your relationship and have a healthy love life.

Does Your Woman Want To Be Dominated?

In this article you will find whether or not your woman enjoys being docile within relationships and what you can do in order to let you have control.

Whereas today's women are more enterprising than before in various spheres of life, starting from their workplace to their home, men generally remain ones who dominate in the dating and sexual arenas. Besides all, women are still afraid of making the first move, and expect men to start conversation and risk refusal by asking them out. Moreover, the majority of women expect men to plan their dates and naturally pay for them. And we perfectly know on whom the burden to start sex falls more often.

This fact raises wonders between men and women as whether or not equality is really what women are after.

You are the man

Despite the fact that women are capable of doing many things, that sometimes even were thought as being the domain of men, the simple truth is that most of them still want to be feminine while being with their men, probably the same way as men want to feel masculine.

And the smarter women understood that all this may happen only if they let go and let them be men, concerning all stages of a relationship.

Power of seduction

When you want a relationship with a woman to become intimate, you switch on your charm and do everything to seduce her. But in order to be seduced, a woman should reduce her defenses and permit the man to work his magic on her. Thus, seduction is a form of psychological domination in which namely woman gives up control of the situation to the man.

Docile type

In case your woman is a docile type, who expects you to make the decisions within the relationship, then probably she prefers being dominated in sex as well. She perhaps prefers when you start sex and take the helms under the sheets. For example she may like when you give her some instructions during sex. The only possible way to find out if she is a docile type is by looking to her reactions during sex and of course talking about your fantasies and wishes with each other.

But it doesn’t mean that this same woman doesn’t want to start sex and be the one who takes the rains. The same about a woman who usually prefers to control everything by herself may like to be docile in the bed and let her man be the one who dominates.

She is a woman

Unfortunately, too many men can’t understand that the concept of equality doesn’t mean that women wan to be treated like men, it just means that women want the same civility and respect that is afforded to men to be extended toward them.

Deep down, a woman wants to be taken care of and feel that she is your woman. So, respect your woman, treat her as your other half and she will willingly submit.

The Best Places to Hide your Sex Toys

Where to hide sex toys, lubricants and other erotic things to keep them out of reach of children or parents? Many people have faced this tough question at least once in their lives. Many of us like diversifying sexual life with the use of a lube, dildo or other silicone friends, but when it comes to storing them some people simply give up.

But you’re not alone with this problem. You’d be amazed to find out where people can store their erotic toys so their relatives don’t run into them. Here are some of the most popular ideas.

The most important thing you should bear in mind when thinking where to store adult toys is that they should be stored near your bed. It can bring a huge disappointment if you have to leave your aroused partner in the middle of your hot foreplay in order to find your sex toy. So, the best thing is to store toys close to bed, or get them close each time you go to bed.

The nightstand

Nightstand is one of the most popular storage places for sex toys. Of course, if you live with your parents, have children or hire a cleaning woman, this isn’t an appropriate place to hide your silicone friends. But you can buy a nightstand that has a secret shelf or drawer with a lock, so you can use it when storing your toys. However, if you live alone with your partner and are childless, the nightstand is definitely the perfect place for you. Maybe it’s not the most original place, but it is the most functional one.

The bed

Some beds also have drawers behind the bed-head or under the bed, so you can install a lock on the drawer and store your toys there. Don’t forget the keys should also be stored somewhere near the bed.

Other people use the space between the box spring and the mattress to store their erotic treasures. But this storage place has many drawbacks, as some toys can be damaged by accidental smashing. Or the vibrators can switch on if you press on them accidentally during play or sleep.

Moreover, if you hire a cleaning lady, she can find your toys when changing your sheets. So, you should consider another place to hide your precious toys.

Shoe Box

Many people keep their sex toys in the shoe boxes, as this place usually doesn’t attract children and parents. Some people even put several shoe boxes under the bed, in order to cast away the suspicions. So, apparently it’s a nice place.

Customized Box

You can also order a nice box with a key-lock, if you can afford these expensive items. Such boxes can be placed on the nightstand or other place, and as it is locked and you are the only card-holder, no-one will be able to open it. But be careful, kids love such forbidden fruit, so have the key always with you.

These are the most popular hiding places for the sex toys. While some people can leave their toys wherever they want to, for others it is not so easy to hide them from their children. So, find your perfect storage place and keep having fun with your favorite sex toys.

The natural female aphrodisiacs

Sex and the ultimate quest for pleasure, have always preoccupied both men and women. While propaganda always highlights the male preoccupation with sexual fulfillment, women are also eager to experiment with aphrodisiacs. Studies reveal that a significant proportion of women never achieve orgasm and sexual fulfillment. Natural aphrodisiacs are substances occurring in nature like plants, fruits, nuts and vegetables that can be used to stimulate and enhance desire. They may also improve the ability to have sex.

Many of the natural aphrodisiacs work for men and women alike but in different ways, acting on their natural systems with the end goal of intensifying sexual desire. Some of the following items are formulated to boost the libido, or even to expand sexual experience. Then there are those that are designed to improve general well-being, increase energy and act as mood enhancers – leading to a greater interest in sex.

Some of the natural aphrodisiacs for women are:

Arginine, an amino acid found in meat, nuts, eggs, coconut milk and cheese, has been found as a safe and effective route to increase the amount of growth hormone (GH) released from the pituitary gland that helps to retard many aspects of aging. As a natural female aphrodisiac, Arginine, along with other supplements, enhances sexual desire, can reduce vaginal dryness, increase the frequency of intercourse and orgasm and even improve clitoral sensation and sexual arousal, thus giving a boost to the libido.

Chocolate, favored by the Aztec gods, helps the release of serotonin that is responsible for feelings of relaxation and pleasure. Dark chocolate is preferable as it contains a higher level of cocoa that is supposed to be more effective. It provides a boost to some good, old-fashioned loving and has the additional advantage of being high in magnesium and antioxidants.

Damiana has been found to contain alkaloids that directly stimulate the sex organs and is also known for its ability to tone the mucous membranes of reproductive organs. Mexican women used to drink an infusion of the herb a couple of hours before bed, to get aroused for their men. Thus it acts as a sexual stimulant. It not only increases the possibility of reaching orgasm but also increases its intensity and betters sexual performance. It is also known to be helpful for the digestive system. It has been helpful in female physiological/hormonal areas such as irritability, headache and acne, and menstrual difficulties, insufficient flow or delayed menstruation in adolescent girls.

Fenugreek, a medicinal plant, has aromatic seeds which were used extensively by the Egyptians, Greeks and Romans. Harem women used it as part of their staple diet, to increase the size and roundness of their breasts. It is also reportedly used in some herbal products that claim ‘bust enhancement’ properties. It is sometimes recommended to nursing mothers to improve their milk supply. It aids in the synthesis of various sex hormones and has estrogenic effects. The seeds have a maple syrup-like odor, and can freshen breath, making somebody more likely to want to get closer to you!

How to Be Happy After Divorce?

Many people believe that it is not possible to have a happy life after divorce. Often these people are so depressed that they don’t have the power to think about something else. They constantly think how they will live without their partners, as usually the decision to divorce comes from one partner. All their thoughts are about past events, they try to understand why this happened namely to them.

These people are scared by their new life, as something unknown is always frightening. They don’t want to start new relationships, as being afraid to feel all that pain again. Being alone with their thoughts and pain is the only thing they want.

There are people who may love so strong that they forget about their own integrity, living only for their partner. They dedicate everything to them. Of course it is romantic, but when it becomes too far, it is already not love, but an obsession. Their happiness depends on their partners.

All people are created full-fledged and that is why we must be happy in spite of everything. We sacrifice our personal live, instead of filling it with love, happiness, making some things for us or realizing our dreams.

People should learn to love, it is not bad even good when you are filled with love, but don’t forget about yourself!

If divorce occurred in your life this means that something was wrong, you have missed something about yourself. Remember that you should have self-esteem, as a particular attitude towards yourself has the same attitude from others. If you are indifferent toward yourself, why others should respect and listen to you. As it is said, take a fancy for yourself and then all the world will be at your feet.

All what happened can’t be changed. The only thing you should do is to draw a lesson from your previous marriage. Everything that occurs in our live is not accidental, each event teaches us something. If you didn’t draw a lesson from your past experience it for sure would repeat again and again till you do not understand what is not right.

So, now is just the perfect time to take care of yourself! This will help to revive your personal life. Enjoy life, distract yourself and life will award you with pleasant surprises!

Share you grief, talk about divorce with your close friends. They will cheer you up and will help you to overcome this difficult period. Travel as it will help you distract your thoughts and attention. Get new friends as being around new people that you do not associate with your ex is very efficient. Do whatever you like, don’t miss you chance to be again happy, love and be loved!

Does Chocolate Affect Sex Life?

If you want to improve your sex it doesn’t mean that you must obligatory buy new lingerie, lubes or sex toys, though they also should be present in your sex life.

Men and women are always looking for some new and sophisticated things to boost and excite their sex. They try new sex toys, new positions without thinking that a simple and delicious ingredient from the local shop may help them have an unforgettable night - a chocolate.

Since appearance of chocolate among people burst a belief that it has a euphoric influence on the body’s senses. According to historical data the Emperor Montezuma consumed large quantities of beverage made from cacao before entering his harem. The well-known lover Casanova drank a cacao and considered it even more exciting than champagne naming it the "elixir of love". It was considered that cacao is a powerful aphrodisiac and since then chocolate was used on wedding nights.

Recently in a research was found out that chocolate not only raises sexual desire but also creates a sensation similar to an orgasm. Chocolate also has shown its psychotropic effects on people. Such stimulating substances as caffeine and theobromine were found in cacao beans.

If you feel anxiety about something eat a bar of chocolate and you will feel its relaxing effect due to a high level of serotonin, a chemical substance produced by the brain that is known by its properties to lower anxiety.

Neither of these properties provides the connection between consuming a chocolate and increasing sexual desire. Here is probably the effect of endorphins that are produced after eating a chocolate and particularly the dark one, that are similar to a beatitude related to a healthy sexual relationship.

Chocolate also possesses phenylethylamine that is known to stimulate the elaboration of dopamine into the pleasure centers usually associated with an orgasm.
According to a survey women who eat large quantities of chocolate are more satisfied with their sex life.

In spite of the fact that correlation between sex and chocolate can not be proved with 100%, the scientific data combined with behavioral investigation shows an unchallenged fact for chocolate’s effect on our sexual arousal. Probably this is a convincing factor to make chocolate a part of our diet.

If you want to plan a sexy night for you partner, use chocolate. Buy a chocolate pie and feed each other in a more sexy way. You may even splash chocolate sauce on your partner's body and lick it; this for sure will spice up your night.

In order to feel the real taste of a chocolate and perceive its stimulating and exciting effect it is better to buy a chocolate that possesses a high cocoa amount and doesn’t contains excessive number of sugar and oils. In case you prefer milk chocolate its ok, as it also will work well.

Things men do that irritate women

Men have the ability to irritate their women without striking a blow, only by doing the below stated things on a regular basis.

Thinking that your driver’s license is counterfeit.

Men don’t admit the fact that you also may have the driver’s license and drive a car even better than men. They would prefer to drive a long way than asking you to drive for awhile. According to statistics realized by many insurance companies, women are involved in fewer accidents than men are.

Thinking that the house cleans itself.

Men never pay attention on what women do around house. They can’t understand that dirty socks doesn’t remove themselves under the bed, food doesn’t unexpectedly appear on the table, clean and ironed clothes don’t get into the cupboard by themselves and dishes don’t clean themselves. Women also work for 8 hours per day, they also get tired but they come from work and start to clean and prepare dinner. Whether men can’t at least wash dishes after them?

Being jealous.

Women don’t like even do not suffer when men treat them like their own property, watching their every move. When a man is jealous and prohibits to his woman all sorts of things, not allowing her to communicate with her friends or with people whom he doesn’t like, it means that he is unassured of himself. This act doesn’t show his love or affection.

Cracking his mother up to the nines.

His mother always will be the most sacred being in any relationship. He thinks that his mother is the best woman and his own woman must behave like his mother. Men always will compare their women cooking with their mother’s culinary creations. And women should do not try to criticize his mother as it may only worsen the situation.

Thinking that their spending is essential and women's wasteful.

The subscription to the golf club or a new auto customizing is more essential than household objects. Many men even do not know how much all this objects cost. Though they also use these objects while their women continue to go by bus and carry heavy bags with products.

Macho man.

Those men who are completely bald and who have even a big beer belly think that all women find them attractive and macho man. And many women would like to date with them. But when it comes to their women they notice even an extra three kilos and always point on it.

Making a mountain out of a molehill when he gets sick.

When women get sick they take a pill and go to bed, without disturbing their men. But with men is another story, if a man is sick then hold the fort! They are even worse than children, they will say that have a serious disease and ask their woman to call doctor, when having a simple flu.

But in spite of everything women love them, because they are so dear and close people.

All About the G Spot

The g spot has been female sexual anatomy’s cause celebre for the past several years, and interest in the g spot is showing no signs of slowing down. It’s hard to know whether the g spot fascination is coming directly from people or from the variety of industries that make money off sexual trends. Either way, it is worth getting some basic information, and resources that can help you find answers that are right for you.

The Great G Spot Debate

This is a difficult question to give a balanced answer to precisely because there is still debate about the g spot. Your family doctor might give you one answer, a “g spot sex activist” would give you another answer, and a medical researcher who has studied female sexual anatomy would give you a third answer.

Does the G Spot Exist?

Because no one really agrees on what “g spot” means, arguing its existence becomes futile since the skeptic may be using different definitions and criteria. There are several studies published in established and respected peer-reviewed journals that are relevant to the question about whether the g spot exists.

What Is the G Spot?

The g spot was named for the German physician Ernst Grafenberg who first described "an erotic zone located on the anterior wall of the vagina along the course of the urethra that would swell during sexual stimulation."

Finding the G Spot

This is a common question both for those who have a g spot, and those who want to learn to stimulate them. One of the problems people have when trying to locate the g spot is that they are expecting it to be a magic button, which, once pressed, immediately delivers mind altering sexual pleasure. Sadly this only happens in old Woody Allen movies.

G Spot Vibrators

There are hundreds of sex toys designed and marketed as g spot vibrators or g spot dildos. Most sex toys that are safe for penetration, and firm enough that they won’t bend when inserted into the vagina, can be used for g spot stimulation. Whenever a sex toy is hyped, like a toy designed to stimulate the g spot, people might imagine something akin to a heat seeking missile that will search and satisfy on its own.

G Spot Books

Most general sex manuals that have been written in the past ten years include some basic information about the g spot. If you’re looking for more detailed information and you’re the kind of person who likes to read about the history and politics of sexuality, the following books will offer you more than a passing reference to how to find your g spot and what it might feel like (although most of them do that too!)

source: sexuality.about.com

What secrests women are talking about?

It’s not a big secret that women talk. The most minutiae of detail about you will not escape her notice and will freely escape her scarlet lips when she’s with the girls. The question is: What will she divulge and what will she keep to herself? Here is a blow-by-blow list of what she talks about and the reasons behind her confessions.

Does size matter?

Women are inquisitive by nature and the mildest subject of their curiosity can be violated seven ways to Sunday. There is no doubt that when girl talk turns bawdy, many men fall under immense scrutiny. Not-so-innocent discussions may arise regarding your endowment because of dissatisfaction, comfort or discomfort and even to gloat -- for the women with “larger” men.

Does she tell her friends? No.

Generally, women will not disclose or even know the exact dimensions of their mate -- unless he has asked her to help him measure his member. For women, describing size is similar to giving directions: Women often give directions by using landmarks and commonly shared points of interest, such as the cool accessories shop downtown. When guys give directions they employ street names, times and miles.

Men think in spatial terms, which often leads them to use a ruler on their member. Women, on the other hand, are empathetic and describe their “feelings” about their men. Their thoughts on your penis likely involve whether or not it’s a good fit, if you need to go deeper or if they are entirely fulfilled. Interestingly, if the relationship is going well, the size or lack thereof is downplayed. Women in love will not jeopardize their relationship on something as trivial as size. Typically, women don’t want to disparage their men and risk the happiness of the relationship.

How’s your technique?

OK, here’s where things can get embarrassing for men. Technique may be discussed between girlfriends, but if they are kind enough, they may not directly reference their men; however, this aspect will be thoroughly threshed out. Women will talk about what they are unsatisfied with in unbelievable detail, but they’ll also sing praises when they're deserved.

Does she tell her friends? Yes.

Disclosing intimate details, laughing, commiserating, and advising, are all requisites in female relationships. Women get ideas and sex tips from one another. Unlike men, women talk about their problems: If there’s something they don’t like, chances are one of their friends has heard about it and has given some pointers to help point the issue in the right direction.

On a positive note, if you’re too good for words, she has definitely created her own vocabulary to describe just how amazing you are.

What’s the frequency?

Everyone has insecurities. We all wonder about sexual frequency and ask: What is average? Are we above average? What are the averages of our neighbors, coworkers and friends? How often you have sex is a common question. It fulfills personal expectations of normalcy and personal desires to be more frequent than average. She may talk about this aspect of your relationship if she feels that you are engaging in too much or too little sex.

Does she tell her friends? Yes.

Women may become insecure about their relationship and use the long-standing barometer of sexual frequency to measure the status of a relationship. Having sex too often can be somewhat boring, which may result in speculation regarding the levels of comfort and interest in the relationship. If sex sharply decreases, women will worry that they have become unattractive, that they have been replaced or that they are being cheated on. Also, women may feel overwhelmed if sex increases beyond what is desired. In either case, they will look to their friends for support and to discuss insecurities.

Is there a lack of communication?

If you are neither communicating with her nor responding to her requests or wishes, then be aware that her friends may hear this. A nonresponsive partner can be a source of frustration and women will turn to their friends when they need an outlet.

Does she tell her friends? Yes.

A lack of communication in the bedroom is a sore spot. If women feel unheard in bed, they may resent hearing their partner elsewhere. Friends are often consulted to learn how to get a man to listen or how to communicate in such a way that does not antagonize or judge. Women may turn to their friends simply because they need someone to hear them.

Friends are a perfect conduit for venting and advice, but be warned that if you aren’t hearing her wants and needs in bed, someone else will.

Talk dirty to me

Perception dictates that women are genteel and do not descend into vulgarity. Many women find it uncomfortable participating in this kind of naughty conversation because they simply don’t know what to say and often end up feeling inadequate and ridiculous.

Does she tell her friends? No.

It’s the rule of generalities -- women may discuss the fact that they engaged in some steamy talk; however, particulars and actual words won’t be repeated unless something laughable was said. For the most part, women will not go around telling their friends how their man waxed poetic about her firm breasts. Specifics are largely underutilized here.

What’s your fetish?

Again, it is the return of establishing normalcy or deviancy. If women breach this topic with their friends, they may be feeling a little intimidated by the fetish, feel inadequate to the wants and needs or be seeking a discreet out from something that they’re not prepared to enjoy.

Does she tell her friends? No.

The embarrassment may be too great and the subject too controversial for some women to freely talk about. Women may not want to be perceived differently from their friends -- especially if they like what is done in the bedroom or wherever the fetish leads them.

How’s your end game?

What men do after having sex resounds in the minds of women. Women often ask: Does he fall asleep? Does he cuddle for five minutes then zip up? Does he stay the night?

Does she tell her friends? Yes.

After a romantic interlude, women may find it necessary to tell their friends exactly what happened. Women want opinions that will confirm their suspicions, allay worries or coincide with happy wishes.

The emotional blow is tangible when men leave right after sex. Women will replay conversations in their heads to find that one word that indicates another meeting and see if his actions follow suit. All these variables are examined and discussed with their friends; be aware of the verbal and nonverbal cues you send on your exit. Unless the woman is also using the man, she will not appreciate a quick getaway.

chatterbox

Friends are invaluable to women. They play the roles of therapist, sister, sounding board, and mother. What women tell or don’t tell their friends is reliant upon mood and how into you they are. Among friends, happiness is shared jubilantly and dissatisfaction is dissected.

How satisfied she is with you and the relationship correlates into positive conversations with her girls. Treat her well and you won’t have to worry about any possible embarrassment later.

Silicone Love in Vogue Today

Some men rather prefer to have sex with a silicone doll than with a real woman. There are a lot of reasons of such an interesting choice. For example, people who had accidents or are handicapped, or some of them just don’t feel good close to a real woman or they think that they can not find one.

These are only some of the reasons why men buy silicone love-dolls that look just like a real woman. Some of these men even start taking care of them and building a real relationship.

So, millions of men spend approximately $6,500 for silicone dolls. These dolls are oriented only for satisfaction of men’s sexual desire and fantasy.

In general love dolls are made and designed as an absolute replica of persons. Men have the choice to propose their ideal woman, because they can choose different body types of the doll, as size of heads, skin tones, palette of make up, colors of hair.

They also have the possibility to choose the breast size that they can touch every day and every night. Most of men use such dolls because they are more erotic and pleasant women and also because they help them easier to reach orgasm anytime.

These dolls are loyal to their master. For example love dolls have and other advantages like not getting pregnant, or they can’t transmit sexual diseases. And most important is that they never say No when men want to have hot sex.

Only adult love dolls can either to intimate or excited all the necessities of men. Some men use love dolls only for sex until they reach their orgasm. But for others such dolls become a possible friend to those who are seeking happiness and not explainable sexual intense desires.

We can’t say that men who use love dolls are misogynist, pervert, rapist, loser, desperate or sexual monster, because they only do sex with them without hurting anybody. And only these dolls make them happy and full of energy.

Love dolls which are also called Blow-Up have gaps in such places as mouth, vagina and ass, so men can enjoy the Kamasutra positions without any problem.

Risky Sex because of Alcohol Use

Sex and alcohol is not a good idea, because alcohol increases the risky sex. Usually the sexual decision is easier to make than when you are not drunk. However, unfortunately in the morning most of those people who had risky sex are not pleased of what they made at night.

Even if the majority of people understand the sexual risks, they continue to use sex with alcohol or vice versa.

It is easier to say that you will not drink alcohol when you plan to have sex, but it is hard not to use it especially when you are going to relax. Unfortunately, scientists observed that drinking alcohol can lead to increased risky sexual behavior, like not using condoms, or even having sex that later you regret you had it.

Research showed also that there is a big connection between alcohol consumption and having sex without condoms.

So, it is clear that the link between alcohol and risky sex is more confused that one might pretend.

Alcohol can influence the people’s decision and sensations. This looks in particular important if they planned to have sex with a new person.

Most of the alcohol’ effects are not physical but psychological, because most of people drink alcohol for to feel more relaxed and exited. This is very important in people which can reach the same sexual effect even without alcohol.

The sexuality depends of how much alcohol you intend to drink. For example, if you will drink only a little of wine then you will be more excited. But if you will be drunk then you will have some problems with your sexuality, and you will not increase the chances of having risky sex, but will reduce the pleasure of having unforgettable sex with a sexy lady or gentleman.

So, how risky the sex which you had being drunk is depends of many factors, but of course the most important of them is how conscious you are of the risks of such pleasure. Better decision will be to enjoy your sexual life without alcohol, which can change your life forever.

Steps that Will Help you to get through a Break up (Part 3)

10. Organize your personal space.

Think positively as break up signifies a new beginning. That is why occupy yourself with domestic cares, wash, clean and organize your personal space. Thus throwing the old thing you will make the place for new to come. A mess not only in thoughts but as well at home provokes depression that is why don’t be lazy and tidy up your personal space. While tidying you will focus your attention on what you are doing thus you will don’t have time to think about your ex. Doing such tasks will make this difficult life period a little bit easier, occupying your mind with other than your ex things.

11. Remove everything that reminds about your ex.

If there are some things that remind you of your ex as for instance a song, a place or a photo, try not to keep them as you only torture yourself. Walk around your home and remove the things that force you to remember about your ex. Don’t try to leave something, as in anyway it will make you think again and again about him/her. Taking them off usually makes wonders. If you have a dear gift that was given by your ex, it is not bad that you will keep it but for this period of time try to put it away, till you feel that you are not more connected to him/her.

12. Find relief in other part of your life.

Try to take interest in some things. You may spend your time with your friends, family or relatives. Enroll yourself for a course of dance or whatever you always wanted. Find that book that you were advised to read by your friend, and didn’t have time because of ex. Do what you want, dedicate all time only for yourself. Remember that besides your relationships there is another part of you life that is also very interesting and deserves to be tried and lived!

13. Be active.

Try to lead an active lifestyle as it will ameliorate you mood and will rid you from depression. As being involved in something will keep your mind off the situation. You may start running in the morning, visit a sport club, or simply go for a walk with a friend. And while walking release yourself from anger and pain.

14. Let it go.

Let go this relations. Understand that there is no use in crying and regretting or feel hatred towards your ex. Remember that although it is all over you spend with your ex an excellent time together. You can be happy because you had the opportunity to love and be loved, which many people would wish to feel. If this time it didn’t work, there for sure will be another.

15. Be an optimist.

Change your way of thinking and you will see how your life is changing. Think positively and be ready for new challenges.

Steps that Will Help you to get through a Break up (Part 2)

6. Deal with your anger.

This is when you are overwhelmed with anger and hatred and the only thing you want in this moment is to scream. It depends mostly on how difficult the brake up was in what circumstances it happened. You can even revile your ex for loosing so much time with him/her. You will realize that this breakup was unavoidable remembering some facts that you haven’t noticed at those times. Thus you will be anger on yourself for not seeing it before. It is a time- waste because you have to understand that this will not change the situation, you only harm yourself. There are so many thing you can do using your energy. Though in such situations it is better to replace the feeling of love towards your ex on that of anger, as sometimes it helps to get through it easily.

7. Take into confidence with your closed friends and relatives.

Try to be close to people who love and appreciate you. Being surrounded by compassionate, and giving moral support friends and family members will help you to feel loved and needed and it would be easier to overcome this difficult life period. Spending your time next to cheerful and positive people will feel you with energy and will make you happier. You will even not notice how quickly you forget your ex.

8. Put down your feelings.

One more helpful step is to try to put down all you feelings and emotions at present moment. Be honest with you and write how it is. Sometimes it helps, as you look on this situation from the other side. While putting down your feelings you may realize that you are already not so angry and it will be easier for you to comprehend useful life lessons. You shouldn’t think about your break up as a failure, although you have lost your relationships you learnt something about yourself and some other things that will help you in your future life.

9. Make a list of ex negative traits.

One more hint to get through this situation is to make a list of your ex negative traits. Be inexorable and write it down how it is. Make this picture for yourself thus you will have the opportunity to see how your ex really looks. Put down what happened and what you felt in that moment; write those situations between you and your ex, which you don’t want to feel again. And when you will feel that you can’t live anymore without your ex, get out this list and read it for a couple of times. Do you want to feel it again?

Being in Love and Keep Your Person Strong

Strong and loving relationship that exist between man and woman is something magnificent. The feelings that connect them cant be described in words. Love and sex is something pleasant and exciting. Let this feeling of love never leaves us, let it leave with and inside us. The feeling of passion, a sea of emotions that overwhelm our soul!

This guide will help you keep the love in your life magical, lasting, and extraordinary.

About girls, for the guys: you may think we talk about anything and everything, so how possibly could we have trouble communicating. The truth is, we fear rejection and being alone more than the average guy does. The result is that most girls will talk about everything except what's bothering them most, out of fear of our significant other leaving us or being angry with us.

• The cure: Reassure her that you love her, and will not leave her over a fight or relationship issue. At this point, your love should be strong enough to withstand most things, bickering and fighting included. Tell her that all long relationships have fights, and the most important thing is solving problems, so as not to build up resentment and damage the relationship.
• Do not: Tell her she is being irrational for her fears of you leaving. While we know that you mean it in a reassuring sense, that you would never leave her over something so insignificant, she takes it to mean that you don't respect her opinions or emotions, and think she's a silly little girl. Her emotions, while probably irrational, are still true, and as such are valid. Treat her with the respect she deserves.

About guys, for the girls: Guys feel a constant pressure to perform and compete, and they constantly feel like their ladies are judging them. If they're with you, they think you're the most beautiful, most amazing thing under the sun, but they have trouble constantly reaffirming their affection. To them, what's true is true, and does not need to be constantly addressed.

• The cure: Tell them what you want from them. Guys hate guessing games and are not very good at them. If you want something for Valentine's day, have a heart and at least give them some hints, like, "I want flowers, but I want you to pick out what you would most think I would like, and not roses like everyone gets." Praise them, and tell them how much you enjoy it whenever they do something unexpected for you, so they don't have to constantly wonder if you enjoyed what they did, and if they should do it again.
• Do not: expect them to constantly be thinking about you, every second of the day. The fact that they love you, to them, is so obvious that it doesn't need constant reassessment. Also, girls communicate so much more non-verbally than guys do, but you've got to open your mouth and speak if you want to communicate with your boyfriend/husband. They hardly ever realize something is wrong unless you tell them.

Next time you have a fight or are even upset with your beloved, take a step back and see if some of the problem is caused by your two very different communication styles. If you can begin to see where your other half is coming from, that's half the problem resolved already!

Keeping the Magic in Your Relationship

It's a common complaint, one that too many people panic at, and think incorrectly that it means the relationship is failing.

•  "The magic just isn't there anymore."
•  "He's not the man I fell in love with."
•  "When we first dated, my heart beat faster when I saw her. Not anymore."

The common theme in all of these is that things between the two of you just aren't amazing as they used to be. It's not the end of the world, and it is definitely a problem that can be fixed. Using the communication skills highlighted above, you can fix these issues before they become something bigger.

•  Keep kissing. Studies show that couples in failing relationships stop kissing each other on the lips long before they stop having sex. In many ways, kissing is much more intimate than sex. Here are a few ways to become a kissing expert.
•  Do little things for each other. Give her a foot rub after a long day at work. Buy him tickets to a sports game, and pretend you enjoy watching sweaty men run around a field wih a ball. The little ways you show you appreciate each other add up, and will bring the romance back into your life.
•  Get away from all other distractions. Rent a hotel room for a couple nights, or find a cheap getaway cruise for three nights. Chances are, you were just too stressed and distracted to fully appreciate your loved one, and time away from work and duties will remind you of what's important.
•  If you need help, seek it. If these things aren't doing it, there's still no reason to become a divorce statistic unless there is truly no other way. Talk to your religious leader, go to a professional counselor, do whatever you need.

You will always regret a failed relationship if you don't truly believe you did whatever you could to fix the problems. If he or she is important enough to you, you will do whatever it takes to make things work. Don't give up! There is always hope.

Keeping a Financially-Peaceful Household

One huge cause of misunderstandings and fights in relationships is money: how we earn it, how we spend it, how we save it. It is vital that couples learn that neither should be solely responsible for the relationship's finances. As always, teamwork and mutual respect is the key.

• Decide how important money is to the two of you. Sure, money is convenient, but at what cost? Is having to send the kids to daycare okay? How about never having the time to go on vacations? Time and money are usually a trade-off, so the two of you need to decide where you stand on the issues.
• Decide how to spend the money. Do the two of you have separate checking accounts, or are they shared? Either way can work, but you always need to talk over big purchases together, even if you're paying for it with "your" money. Otherwise, your significant other will feel betrayed and not respected when you bring home that enormous television set.
• Decide how you are going to save money. You both need to get your long-term finances in order. Money conversations are so much less stressful when you know you have money safely saved and in the bank.

Money problems are some of the easiest issues to fix, if you sit down and figure out exactly what you are unhappy about at this moment. Always make money decisions a team effort, and through your problem-solving, the two of you will grow closer in the process.

Steps that Will Help you to get through a Break up (Part 1)

Everyone who has experienced love has also get through heartbreak. When we love someone we share with our beloved the best, most secret and intimate parts of ourselves. And when it happens that our love is rejected we think that our love is not valuable. People are created to love and be loved - this is what we are. Being rejected by our dear person is interpreted as, “I am nothing and I am not worthy of love”. If you are getting now through a break up try to follow the below presented steps, and very soon you will feel yourself better and free.

1.Think why it happened.

Try to think why you broke up, what happened between you. Even if sometimes you think that there wasn’t any reason, there certainly was one - and certainly not only one. Try to understand that there was a period of time when you were happy together, but it happened that after a while something went wrong in your relations, that none of you liked it and it would end anyway. In relationships it is better sooner than later, because further will be more painful. Such an analysis will help you to avoid other mistakes in the future.

2.Don't try to inhibit yourself.

Don’t hold back yourself, cry if you want, and scream if you need. Give way to your emotions. Spend the whole day in pajamas if you want. Devote this time to yourself; there is nothing wrong that you cry, you have been hurt. After a while you will feel a slight relief.

3.Don't change your decision.

Don’t try to think about your decision, as thinking about all good times you spend together may make you forget all the reasons of your break up. Very often people began to think that those bad parts of relationship were not so bad after all, and they could live with them farther. Try not to play such games with yourself. Come to terms with this situation and move forward.

4.Keep distance.

Although after the breakup you decided to remain friends with your ex, try to have nothing in common with this person. It means that you don’t have to see each other, you shouldn’t communicate with his/her family relatives and you must forget about phone calls and e-mails. These are temporary measures until you feel that it is all over between you two. In case you would need him/her to deal with some practical aspects of things, try limiting these meetings except those important.

5.Cope with emotions.

It is natural to feel that you made something wrong, thus accepting the mistakes. But you also don’t have to forget that you are an ordinary person, who tried to do his /her best and besides of all you are not the one who makes mistakes. Of course to be denied is difficult to stand but soon will be a new acceptance that will make you moving forward.